Note 38 - On Compromise and Attachment

 I think there's a misunderstanding between 'following your desires/bliss' regardless of what anyone else thinks, and caring what your partner's wants are and having them matter to you.


It's the word between. They're not linked.


Your internal desires and what you choose to feel inside don't have to have anything to do with what they want. What if you never actually have to compromise, in the sense of giving up on what you want in order to let them have theirs? What if the compromise, in that case, is letting go of the attachment of what that desired internal sensation looks like on the outside?


From there it's just a matter of how much does the idea of what they want turn you off? So to speak. Be soft in what you want. Panic and fear do not end the dance any faster - they only make you stumble so much along the way that the dance is no fun and doesn't end where you want it to. Instead, let the music fill you, move you, sway you, and show you the perfect timing, amazing grace, and wonderous adventure that life can be.

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