Meditational Musings

 I think there's a misunderstanding between 'following your desires/bliss' regardless of what anyone else thinks, and caring what your partner's wants are and having them matter to you. It's the word between. They're not linked. Your internal desires and what you choose to feel inside don't have to have anything to do with what they want. What if you never actually have to compromise, in the sense of giving up on what you want in order to let them have theirs? What if the compromise, in that case, is letting go of the attachment of what that desired internal sensation looks like on the outside? From there it's just a matter of how much does the idea of what they want turn you off? So to speak. Be soft in what you want. Panic and fear do not end the dance any faster - they only make you stumble so much along the way that the dance is no fun and doesn't end where you want it to. Instead, let the music fill you, move you, sway you, and show you the perf...

 choosing a loving universe: "Trusting that things happen the way they do, ultimately, for a reason you'd agree with even if or though you can't understand it from your current perspective." Preferences along the way are normal. Wanting one thing or another is normal. Feeling like you -have- to have it, being attached to the having of it, is where it starts to get tricky. Recognizing a need is good (in so much as there is a 'good'). Being attached to that need as a truth is the conscious ego. That part of you that 'thinks' and makes choices. You make choices at every level, when you get right down to it. Most of them unconscious, and I don't just mean because it's the subconscious or the unconscious or something you have no control over. You have no control over it because you're not doing it consciously. That's it. You can't exactly just decide to become conscious of doing it, either. I mean, you -can-, but if we're talking to ...

 It's not the thought(s) that you're trying to stop. It's the attachment to them. The identifying with them. Notice the reactions you have -to- the thoughts. Those are what need to be addressed. Be aware of the reactions, control the reactions is focus. When you are in control of your reactions, you have the ability to switch your focus to whichever frequency you desire. When the thought(reaction to the thought) controls your reaction/attention, then you lose the ability to focus where you will/desire/want. Fear of choosing wrong is the basis for a lot of anxiety. That is a reaction to a thought. It controls your ofucs, preventing you from seeing other options available. Preventing you from feeling other frequencies available. Preventing you from focusing on other frequencies available. Thus choosing your reality for you. Releasing the attachment to that fear, allowing yourself to look at the ideas being presented -without- reacting in fear, will allow you to have more of t...

 The second you stop caring where the belief/pattern/reflection/manifestation/emotion/thought/situation/etc came from, the second it's able to finally change. when you stop caring where it came from, you no longer pay it any  attention. it's not being fed, it's not going to stay around. without you causing the ripple in that part of the water, the water there smooths. goes back into that formless awareness that is -everywhere-. 

 one of the basic freedoms you've been asking for when you think you want freedom is freedom from thinking.  not to say you want to follow someone else. no. not sheep or cattle, in that sense. freedom from the vast amount of thoughts attached to every desire. judgements, worries, fears, doubts, definitions. all of those are bars on freedom. that observer state, that is your freedom. maintaining your ability to turn your focus wherever you -want- to turn it, rather than having an emotion or thought grip your focus away from you, is what you want. (Do you -want- to be feeling fear? Hatred? Anger? Anxiety? You may think it a logical reaction to the person, place or situation you're observing, but do you -want- to feel it? If not, you use focus to move your attention to something else. How well can you focus? Amazingly well, if you retain your grasp of your focus. It's when the thoughts and emotions dictate your focus that you have difficulty, or end up having difficulty.)

 separate emotions and related thoughts away from your desire. the slow way to do that is to think about it long enough that the 'flavor' of it wears off, or the 'oomph' goes away. it no longer holds any emotion for you. the related thoughts could be done by redefining what the desire means and tracking down along the thread of every related thought/feeling mix. these ways are good. and they work. but slowly. the faster way to do this is to witness the desire from the observer role/position. notice the attachments and emotions and definitions from that neutral, compassionate space. then look back to the desire itself, without those associations. when the desire no longer controls your emotion/focus is when it come flow easiest to you. there's a lot of anxiety around the idea of letting go of a desire. it's not about letting -go- of it. It's about not reacting to the desire itself. Or, rather, it's about not reacting to the thought of -not- getting that d...

 belief is irrelevant. faith that something will come to pass is irrelevant. you already thought it. the second you thought it, it was created. it already exists. you just made it. you don't have to believe it will come for you or to you. you don't have ot have faith it will show up. you have to stop thinking about it. stop feeling about it. feel however you feel in the moment. that's fine. think whatever you're thinking of the moment, if you can. most of the time you can't. so we say shut the mind off. It fulfilled its purpose in the creation process. You don't need it until you need to make a decision about what frequency/thing/situation you want next time.